As a follow up to my last two posts, I wanted to comment on something that was said to us often in our ordeals:

“Don’t worry too much. The Lord has said he won’t give us more than we can bear.”

The problem is, He never said that. The correct reference is 1 Corinthians 10:13

“…But God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”

The Lord never said that we wouldn’t face obstacles in our lives that we couldn’t overcome. I think that the vast number of Saints don’t understand this principle and are hasty to judge those in the throes of unbearable pain.

Sealings for Mormons are the ultimate sacraments. Man and woman, parent and child cast together by the fire of Elijah’s spirit. Modern Mormons expect the systematic temple liturgy to alloy them in the Abrahamic order. Perhaps surprisingly, this standard was not apparent during the lifetime of the Prophet; moreover, while Temples remained sparse through to the 20th century, the liturgy remained dynamic. (more…)

One of the big problems facing those inflicted with infertility is the lack of clear teaching/doctrine about infertility. The pourpose of this post will be to pose some of the questions we faced and appeal to the bloggernacle for clarification in doctrine, et al. I will also give my understanding of the answers.

1. When does life start? When my wife had her tubal (see previous post), the fallopian tube actually burst, putting her life in danger. When the doctors went in to rectify the situation, they found that the only reason that she didn’t bleed out was that the foetus had lodged against the burst, exerting pressure on the rupture and stemming the bleeding. At the time I knew that I had lost a child, but even in the act of loosing the child, I felt a sense of sacrifice to save my wife. (more…)

The following is my wife and my true story of infertility. It is a sensitive subject and one I have been reticent to share. However, in this story there are many important subjects that deserve to be talked about.

My wife and I are both active members of the church. We both served missions and have testimonies of the gospel. My wife is the oldest daughter of 11 kids and always pictured she would be the mother of a large family. We met at BYU and I finished up a year after we were married. We felt it was responsible to wait to start a family as we had no real income of our own. We employed responsible birth control. I graduated and started the quest for a job and benefits. Within the next year I was to face an illness which threatened to end my life as well as our family. As I was scrambling out of the effects of my illness, we decided we could no longer wait and started trying to have a child. We were a little surprised that we did not get immediately pregnant. After all, the result of unprotected sex is pregnancy, right? However, eventually (within a year) we were successful and my wife got pregnant. I finally became healthy enough to work again and landed a decent job. (more…)